Don;t tempt fate again, wait until she is 16 and even then keep an eye out. You do not have to be popular here.
There is no way I would let my 11-12 year old go to the shop alone... out of my sight... not today, not in the world we live in anymore. I don;t care what she thinks... anyway she knows not even to ask.
At least we have mobile phones, imagine our parents without them... but then the world was safer back then too.
Just my honest reaction to your (well written) post...
Oh it must be tough, Jo. Packing up the cotton wool leaves kids feeling free - and you end up the one feeling vulnerable and exposed!
But you know your daughter. You know what's best for her and what she can handle. The gradual move to independence is a bit of a battle, but I'm sure you are using sound judgement.
As the first-born, I was probably always 'protected' (it felt more like stifled at times though I see the wisdom of it now) until I was eleven, which is when I left my private Catholic school and started highschool. Then I was allowed to go shopping and to the pool, etc with my friends. I always got a lecture first, so I felt more than prepared for venturing out, but I do think doing those kinds of things by myself was very important.
Don't worry too much, I'm sure you have a daughter with a good head on her shoulders. She is school captian after all.
Michaelie
5. February 7th 2008 @ 02:59. Anonymous Says:
Great post, Jo. I vividly remember finally getting my mum to let me and my best friend go to the shops alone. I had no idea how anxious she must have been. Now that I have a three year old, I have some idea. I remember saying to my mum,"I can handle myself". Good grief, I was 11 or 12 - how could I have thought I could handle myself? My son's only 3 so I have some time to think about this. Your daughter sounds mature and you certainly did what you could to give yourself peace of mind. It's hard - you have to start loosening the leash but......
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My advice?
Don;t tempt fate again, wait until she is 16 and even then keep an eye out. You do not have to be popular here.
There is no way I would let my 11-12 year old go to the shop alone... out of my sight... not today, not in the world we live in anymore. I don;t care what she thinks... anyway she knows not even to ask.
At least we have mobile phones, imagine our parents without them... but then the world was safer back then too.
Just my honest reaction to your (well written) post...
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But you know your daughter. You know what's best for her and what she can handle. The gradual move to independence is a bit of a battle, but I'm sure you are using sound judgement.
As the first-born, I was probably always 'protected' (it felt more like stifled at times though I see the wisdom of it now) until I was eleven, which is when I left my private Catholic school and started highschool. Then I was allowed to go shopping and to the pool, etc with my friends. I always got a lecture first, so I felt more than prepared for venturing out, but I do think doing those kinds of things by myself was very important.
Don't worry too much, I'm sure you have a daughter with a good head on her shoulders. She is school captian after all.
Michaelie